"We are called to show mercy because mercy has first been shown to us." -Pope Francis

Category: Pregnancy

a letter to my mom (who says she’s falling apart)

to-michelle

Dear Mom,

As I take my kids to doctor’s appointments, wipe runny noses, and make lots of tomato soup this week, I find myself realizing why you say you are falling apart. 

If your memory is going, it’s probably from years of remembering when to take temperatures, when to administer medicines, and when to pick us up and drop us off from practices.

If your shoulders are sore, it’s probably from the thousands of times you picked us up out of the crib. 

If your lower back is aching, it’s probably from the awkward position you must assume to get a kid into a carseat and from the strain of bending down each night to pick up big pots and pans to put on the stove. 

If your hips are hurting, it’s probably because you carried us to the potty chair and to bed against our will countless times, sometimes enduring strong kicks and flailing arms.

If you have arthritis in your hands, it’s probably from stirring stews in pots and browning meat for our meals, and mending our clothes, and sewing us beautiful things, and helping us learn to play piano.

If your voice is changing and tired, it’s probably from singing us to sleep and filling our hearts with beautiful songs to give us hope, and something to remember when things are hard. 

If your hearing is going, it’s probably because you spent years hearing baby screams and cries and laughs, and overhearing sibling fights, and maybe eavesdropping on conversations to make sure older kids weren’t getting into trouble. 

If your knees are shot, it’s probably from years of kneeling down in prayer for us, and from countless diaper changes.

If you have stretch marks, it’s because you were open to God’s will, carried children within you, and helped us come into the world and experience light. 

If your face is full of wrinkles, it’s probably from hours and hours spent smiling at our happy baby faces, pouring out lots of love, filling us up with happiness to carry us through a lifetime.

And so it is my sincere hope and prayer, that when I arrive at your beautiful age, I can look at myself in the mirror, and be falling apart every bit as much as you are today.  Because then I can know with confidence, that I gave everything to my children and family, in the way that you gave everything to me. 

“This is my body, given up for you.”  These are the words of Christ. They are also the words of my mother.  How beautiful it is to imitate Christ.  With all of my heart, thank you.

God bless you, I love you forever,

Kaitlyn Clare (a.k.a. Your Angel Bunny)

Hope After Miscarriage & Infant Loss

I learned from their words in this DVD that it is always better to reach out, always better to try to love and comfort, always better to acknowledge the beautiful child who is now lost to Heaven – than it is to do and say nothing.

I can’t imagine going through a miscarriage.  I can’t imagine delivering a child who has gone to Heaven.  I can’t imagine losing an infant.  I can’t imagine going through these things because I have not gone through these things.  Not yet anyways.

While I’m grateful that is my reality, I know that for so many people out there, loss is their reality.  And my heart and my prayers go out to them.

What can we do to bring these families comfort and healing?  What can we say? Read the rest of this entry »

Gorgeous Sacred Music for New Mothers

Those very first few days at home, I had a lot of trouble sleeping. Childbirth brings physical discomforts, as well as an onslaught of excitement, anxiety, and overwhelming awe and joy at this new little life that is yours to love! Sleep didn’t come easily. But when I popped this gorgeous sacred music into my CD player, I felt I had entered another world – Heaven to be exact!

We brought our son home from the hospital a couple of months ago.  What a joyous occasion.  What a blessing.  What an honor.  What a privilege!

These two CDs were waiting in a small box on our doorstep when we arrived.

Those very first few days at home, I had a lot of trouble sleeping.  Childbirth brings physical discomforts, as well as an onslaught of excitement, anxiety, and overwhelming awe and joy at this new little life that is yours to love!

Sleep didn’t come easily.  But when I popped this gorgeous sacred music into my CD player, I felt I had entered another world – Heaven to be exact!  Read the rest of this entry »

15 Tips for a Happy Post-Partum

I received the love, support, help, and guidance that I needed to persevere. Prayer was helpful, sure! But I had to make those phone calls. I had to pick up the phone and get the help I needed to achieve the peace that I was asking for in my prayers to Christ. As Mothers, we’re pros at helping everyone in our family stay healthy in mind, body, and spirit. And I’m sure you know where I’m going with this… we need to help ourselves stay healthy in mind, body, and spirit, too!

 

I am blessed to be the Mother of three children.  Each one is such a blessing to our lives!

And each one has required me to grow and stretch and live in a new way.  A new selfless way.

Motherhood definitely keeps me in continual prayer…

Because caring for a child – especially a newborn – requires sacrifice.  It requires a continual outpouring of love, attention, and care that I am convinced is only possible with strength coming directly from God!

So I keep praying! (Just keep praying, just keep praying… What do we do?  Pray, pray…)

I have struggled with post-partum anxiety three times now.

God has blessed me with three beautiful children and three golden opportunities to overcome post-partum darkness.  Read the rest of this entry »

The Agony in the Garden of the 40th Week

The Agony in the Garden of the 40th Week

Then Jesus came with them to a place called Gethsemane… He advanced a little and fell prostrate in prayer, saying, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me; yet, not as I will, but as you will.”  (Matthew 26:36 & 39)

Motherhood, and pregnancy in particular, brings us to the side of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane in a powerful way.  Unlike the Garden of Eden that once held the conditional promises of eternal peace, the Garden of Gethsemane is an earthly garden where we must await inevitable suffering.

We know just as Christ did that with this suffering comes inexplicable joy!  Christ knew He would rise from the dead, comfort His friends and Mother on earth, and then ascend to His throne in Heaven.  But that didn’t remove His agony as He anticipated suffering.

Christ knew that His suffering on the cross would bring new lives to Heaven.  Mothers know that their suffering in childbirth brings new life into the world.

I have found that childbirth is an extremely mental and spiritual process, and one that has really stretched my faith and self-confidence.  It forces me to completely rely on Christ.

As I write these words now in my 40th week of pregnancy, looking down at the little life moving around inside of me, I am very aware that at some point, this child has to come out!

What Mother does not pray for her childbirth experience to be smooth, easy, and as pain free as possible?  What Mother when her hour has come does not think or pray, “Lord, if it is possible, ease my pain, and let this cup pass me by!” Read the rest of this entry »

Back to the Dictionary Part II: What is Termination of Pregnancy?

I don’t know about you, but I don’t like being brainwashed. Furthermore, I don’t like watching other people become brainwashed by a society that tells us it is just fine to terminate a pregnancy.

Photo copyright Kaitlyn Mason 2016. All rights reserved. Image created with Canva.

At every step of the way, the term “pregnancy” refers to a woman carrying a baby. In other words, if a pregnancy has begun, a human life has begun. Do you disagree? Click here to read Part I of this series, where I explain this in greater detail.

I’ve found that organizations and individuals that support and provide abortions refrain from discussing abortion procedures as ending the life of a baby.

This is understandable. Many choose not to believe that pregnancy refers to a woman carrying a baby. Furthermore, why would anyone want to pay for a procedure that ends the life of a baby? This sounds horrendous, and abortion industry workers know that. Abortion is big business. They know better than to turn customers away before they even enter the door.

So rather than tell everyone that abortion terminates a human life, abortion facilities prefer to say Read the rest of this entry »

Caring for the Unborn

I’m just fortunate that I know the truth.  That this model represents a baby – a real baby.  One that needs and deserves care, love, respect, and to be cradled and protected within its Mother’s womb.

Photo copyright 2016 Kaitlyn Mason. All rights reserved. Image created with Canva.

This is a fetal model at 12 weeks gestation. In other words, the baby model in the picture above is representative of a baby at 12 weeks old in utero. In still other words, this is what a baby looks like when the Mother is only 12 weeks pregnant.

Oh there are so many ways to say the same thing.

And that’s just it – embryo, fetus, baby, human life – it’s all the same thing. (Don’t believe me? Read my post about that here…)

This little model entered our home last fall after I received it a fundraising event for a local pregnancy resource center. At the time, I was around 12 weeks pregnant.

I remember bringing it home and explaining to our 2 year old that the new baby was about that big inside Mommy’s tummy. I let her hold it, and she was so excited!

“Look!” she exclaimed. “These are the new baby’s eyes, and the new baby’s nose!”

“That’s right, and where are the baby’s hands? Where is the baby’s mouth?” I asked. “Right there! Right there!” She pointed out all the parts of this little baby with excitement.

Then she tried to Read the rest of this entry »

Yes, My Hands Are Full – Full of Blessings

Yes, My Hands Are Full - of Blessings (1)

Photo copyright 2016 Kaitlyn Mason. All rights reserved. Image created with Canva.

 

I once took a Mother in a crisis pregnancy out on a very special trip to Target. She had recently considered abortion, but left her appointment because she felt God say, “Trust me.” Several weeks later, we were setting up her baby shower registry at Target with the Mary Garden Showers ministry.

A lady in the store started a conversation with the Mother in crisis. “You already have two toddlers? And you’re pregnant? Wow, just wait until that next baby gets here! You will be so busy.”

The woman had no idea this Mother was Read the rest of this entry »

Preparing for a Flood of People Choosing Life

Preparing for a Flood of People Choosing Life! (1)

It’s coming. It has to be coming. The day when people realize that their right to meet their child face to face is more important than their right to abortion access is coming.

That’s right, we have a right to Read the rest of this entry »

Back to the Dictionary Part I: What is Pregnancy?

THE NEW YOU.jpg

There seems to be some confusion about the definition of a pregnancy these days.

Four months into our pregnancy, a woman congratulated me and asked how the baby was doing. “Well, I mean, it’s not really a baby yet,” she added. “Well, kind of, but not really.” She was Read the rest of this entry »