5 Ways to Help Celebrate at a Blessing Shower
by Kaitlyn Mason
A baby shower is often a joyous occasion. It is a celebration of a new life, a new mother, and a new journey. At a baby shower, a mother receives needed items for her child, and she is filled with hope and love for her adventures ahead with baby.
Many women in our society are navigating through a pregnancy during a crisis situation in their lives. For these women, baby showers can be an incredibly important milestone, often a turning point in their pregnancy, when they realize they truly can overcome all obstacles and embrace the joy their child is bringing into their world.
This is wonderful, but we need to remember – not all women and families experiencing a crisis pregnancy situation are anticipating bringing home a baby.
Some babies will likely not live long after birth, leaving behind grieving parents. Other babies are heading home from the hospital with an adoptive family, leaving birth parents, the women and men who bring the baby into the world, with heavy hearts.
Mary Garden Showers has been hosting baby showers for women in crisis pregnancies for over two years. We are also being called to serve women through blessing showers.
Have you ever heard of a blessing shower? Read on to learn more about why they’re important & how you can help!
What is a blessing shower?
A blessing shower is a chance to celebrate a new little life, and a new mother. In this way it is very similar to a baby shower. Yet a blessing shower is different because it is provided in a very sensitive situation when a family is likely going to experience some form of infant loss, or when parenting is not an option. Blessing showers provide a much needed opportunity for people to celebrate a new life and a chance to heal and move forward during what is likely a very challenging situation.
In a world that questions whether a pregnant woman is truly carrying a child, and that even encourages abortion at times, there are courageous women and families choosing to carry their babies to term in the midst of a crisis situation. They are sometimes choosing to give their babies life despite daunting prenatal diagnoses and other challenges, and they are sometimes choosing to give life through adoption. Let’s rise to the occasion and be there for them! These mothers and families are doing something absolutely amazing that deserves applause and all our love!
Once a woman becomes pregnant, she is a mother. Nothing and no one can ever take that title away. The woman who is pregnant is always a mother, and this beautiful role is to be celebrated regardless of whether the baby is lost to a miscarriage, lost to a terminal illness, brought home from the hospital in her arms, or brought home from the hospital in the arms of an adoptive family. The beautiful, irreplaceable, precious, incredible child is to be celebrated as well! Every life deserves a celebration.
What about gifts?
Since blessing showers are given to women and families who are not expecting to bring home a baby, gifts given will focus on providing strength and comfort to the baby’s mother and family. We want these gifts to help mothers feel pampered and supported, and to make their lives a little easier at the moment. Mary Garden Showers will be assisting women in creating personal registries with self-care items, pampering items, and inspirational, uplifting materials.
Journals, scrapbooks, travel bags, books, mementos, candles, soft bed sheets, tissue, music – all of these will make great gifts. Baby gifts are typically not appropriate in these situations. Mary Garden Showers will include them on a registry only when mothers specifically request special baby items.
What do women need in these situations?
Every woman is different. Some women may be eager to celebrate the little life they have come to know during their pregnancies. Furthermore, for some women, this celebration may be an uncomfortable trigger for many emotions. Not every woman is going to want a blessing shower in the first place, and this is completely understandable. But when a woman does want to celebrate her motherhood and her child, we will host a blessing shower.
Every blessing shower registry is going to look different. Please keep this in mind. Some women need lots of space to grieve during this time, and they may not be in an emotional state to create their own registry. In these situations, our loving sponsor groups will step in and suggest some pampering items and other materials based on what they know about the woman receiving a blessing shower. At other times, women will create their own registries, and we will help them select gifts that will provide comfort and support to them in their time of need.
How can I help celebrate?
Here are 5 ways you can help celebrate with us at a blessing shower:
1. Pray – When preparing for blessing showers, we will include the mother’s name on our prayer campaign on our website at marygardenshowers.org. Please join us in praying for these mothers and babies!
2. Attend a Blessing Shower – Being present at a blessing shower is a great way to show you care! Invite others to come along, too.
3. Write a Letter – We will also invite everyone to send in letters of hope and encouragement for the mother we are celebrating. Help us spread the word! You can send letters via the contact page on our website, to our email address, or you can mail them directly to the church hosting the baby shower. Addresses for the hosting churches can be found on our website.
4. Purchase a Gift – Please consider purchasing a gift that will bring comfort, strength and hope to a mother who is likely going through a grieving process. Check out our blessing shower registries if you’re not sure what to purchase, and please keep in mind that these registries will look much different than our baby shower registries.
5. Sponsor a Mother – If you would like to walk alongside a mother, providing love and mercy to her in this time of need, please reach out to us. We are always looking to connect mothers in crisis with women who can lovingly guide them in their journey of motherhood.
Thank you for your support of our ministry. May God bless you abundantly.
P.S. God is merciful & He loves you! Pass it on…